Relationship Mistakes in Surrogacy (And How to Avoid Them) – as featured on Me, You, & Who?!
I joined Whitney Hall on Me, You, & Who?! to talk about the relationship side of surrogacy - expectations, trust, and the tiny communication habits that make a huge difference. If you’re an intended parent or a gestational carrier, this one’s for you.
Key Takeaways
Clear expectations early = fewer misunderstandings later.
Attachment styles (secure/anxious/avoidant) show up in IP–GC dynamics—and can be worked with.
A short weekly check-in builds trust and reduces “text anxiety.”
Define response time norms (e.g., “within business hours”) to protect everyone’s bandwidth.
Name deal-breakers vs. preferences before medical milestones.
Use repair scripts after a misstep: acknowledge → clarify intent → set next step.
Agency/clinic updates still need a human recap between IPs and GCs.
Important Takeaway
Even the strongest surrogacy partnerships aren’t always conflict-free. When people expect occasional friction and have a plan to circle back, anxiety drops and connection grows. Simple structures (like a weekly check-in and written expectations) are an act of care for everyone involved.
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