The Real Reason Some Surrogacy Matches Struggle
Ever spiral when a romantic partner doesn’t text back? Or pull away when they reach out too much? That’s attachment — and it shows up in surrogacy too.
We all bring emotional patterns into relationships. Some people seek closeness when they feel uncertain. Others withdraw. These dynamics don’t just show up in romantic relationships. They show up in IP/GC relationships—especially under stress.
Anxious IP: Keeps texting for updates, even after the GC clearly said she’d call once she was brought back.
Avoidant GC: Delays replying because she feels emotionally overwhelmed trying to manage the IP’s anxiety.
Secure Match: Tolerates waiting, trusts the process, and doesn’t interpret silence as a problem.
Attachment Styles in Surrogacy
Understanding emotional dynamics between gestational carriers and intended parents can make or break a match. This visual guide breaks down anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment styles—and how they often show up in third-party reproduction.
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