What to Expect: Psychological Evaluations and Consultations for Surrogacy and Donor Conception

Clear guidance on psychological evaluations, consultations, and joint sessions for gestational carriers, intended parents, and donors.

This page outlines what to expect when working with me for psychological evaluations and consultations related to surrogacy, egg donation, sperm donation, and embryo donation. Services are structured to meet current professional and industry standards and are designed to be efficient, thoughtful, and collaborative.

Gestational Carrier Psychological Evaluation

Who this is for

Individuals pursuing gestational surrogacy who are working with an agency, fertility clinic, or attorney and require a comprehensive psychological evaluation.

What to expect

The evaluation includes a clinical interview and standardized psychological testing. If you have a partner, that person is required to participate in the interview portion. The goal is to assess readiness, emotional stability, insight, support systems, and the ability to navigate the demands of surrogacy.

What we cover

  • Motivation for surrogacy and understanding of the role

  • Emotional history, coping style, and stress tolerance

  • Support systems and relational dynamics

  • Financial context and decision-making autonomy

  • Understanding of medical risks, boundaries, and expectations

  • Attitudes toward intended parents, pregnancy, and relinquishment

How to prepare

  • Complete intake materials in advance of the appointment

  • Standardized psychological testing is administered during the evaluation

  • Set aside uninterrupted time for the clinical interview

  • If you have a partner, ensure they are available to participate in the interview portion

After the evaluation

A written psychological report is provided to the referring agency, clinic, or attorney, with appropriate consent. Follow-up clarification is available if needed.

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Intended Parent Psychological Consultation or Evaluation

Who this is for

Intended parents pursuing surrogacy who are seeking a required evaluation, agency consultation, or additional support prior to matching.

What to expect

This consultation focuses on emotional readiness, expectations, and the relational aspects of working with a gestational carrier. The session is collaborative and exploratory, with attention to the unique considerations that arise across different paths to parenthood.

What we cover

  • Your path to parenthood and what led you to pursue surrogacy

  • Expectations of the gestational carrier relationship

  • Emotional, relational, and identity considerations

  • Decision-making around medical contingencies

  • Communication, boundaries, and conflict resolution

  • Support systems and coping strategies

How to prepare

  • Reflect on your goals, concerns, and expectations for the surrogacy journey

  • Consider any questions or topics you want to make sure are addressed

  • Both parties should attend when applicable

After the consultation

A written summary or report is provided when required by agencies or clinics. Additional consultations can be scheduled as needed.

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Egg Donor Psychological Evaluation

Who this is for

Egg donors completing a required psychological evaluation through an agency or fertility clinic.

What to expect

The evaluation assesses emotional readiness, informed consent, and the ability to navigate the short and long term implications of egg donation.

What we cover

  • Motivation and understanding of the donation process

  • Emotional health and psychological history

  • Decision-making capacity and autonomy

  • Attitudes toward future contact and disclosure

  • Understanding of medical risks and emotional impact

How to prepare

  • Complete intake materials in advance of the appointment

  • Allow time for both the clinical interview and standardized psychological testing

  • Be prepared to discuss personal, family, and emotional history

After the evaluation

A written report is shared with the referring agency or clinic, with donor consent.

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Sperm Donor Psychological Evaluation

Who this is for

Sperm donors completing a required psychological evaluation for donation through a clinic or agency.

What to expect

The evaluation focuses on emotional health, motivation, informed consent, and understanding of the long-term implications of donation.

What we cover

  • Motivation for donation

  • Psychological and emotional history

  • Understanding of genetic contribution and future implications

  • Attitudes toward disclosure and potential future contact

  • Coping skills and support systems

How to prepare

  • Complete intake materials in advance of the appointment

  • Allow time for both the clinical interview and standardized psychological testing

  • Be prepared to discuss personal, family, and emotional history

After the evaluation

A written report is provided to the referring clinic or agency.

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Directed (Identified) Donor Consultation or Evaluation

(Egg, Sperm, or Embryo Donation)

Who this is for

Parties involved in directed (identified) donation arrangements, including friends or family members serving as donors or recipients.

What to expect

These consultations address the added relational, emotional, and boundary considerations that arise in identified donation arrangements. The focus is on clarity, communication, and long-term relational impact across all parties.

What we cover

  • Motivation and expectations across parties

  • Relational history and dynamics

  • Boundary setting and communication

  • Long-term considerations, including ongoing, age-appropriate communication and future contact

  • Emotional risks and areas of potential strain

How to prepare

  • Reflect on expectations, boundaries, and long-term considerations

  • Be prepared for open and honest discussion about relational dynamics

After the consultation

Written summaries or reports are provided when required. Joint and individual sessions may be recommended depending on the arrangement.

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Recipient Parent Consultation

(Nonidentified or Directed (Identified) Donor)

Who this is for

Recipient parents who are considering or planning to build a family using a nonidentified or directed (identified) egg, sperm, or embryo donor and want support navigating the emotional, relational, and long-term considerations of donor conception.

What to expect

This is a single-session consultation designed to help you feel more prepared and grounded as you move forward. The session is exploratory and educational rather than evaluative, with space to reflect, ask questions, and think through decisions that often extend beyond the medical process.

Sessions are held virtually via secure telehealth. When applicable, partners are expected to attend together.

What we cover

  • Decision-making around donor type, including nonidentified and directed (identified) options

  • Support in clarifying values, priorities, and concerns when a donor has not yet been selected

  • Emotional and relational considerations related to using fresh versus frozen eggs

  • Considerations related to level of future contact and evolving family boundaries

  • Emotional responses that can arise around donor conception

  • Managing questions, assumptions, or reactions from others

  • Ongoing, age-appropriate communication with children about their origins

  • What donor-conceived children tend to be curious about over time

How to prepare

  • Reflect on questions, concerns, or areas of uncertainty

  • Consider what feels most complex or emotionally charged about this step

  • No formal preparation is required beyond showing up thoughtfully

After the consultation

This is not a psychological evaluation or clearance in the traditional sense; however, many clinics and agencies require this consultation as part of the donor conception process. Many people leave feeling more informed, less alone in their thinking, and better equipped to move forward with clarity and intention.

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Joint Session

(Gestational Carrier–Intended Parents or Directed (Identified) Donor Arrangements)

Who this is for

Matched gestational carriers and intended parents, as well as parties involved in directed (identified) egg, sperm, or embryo donation arrangements, who are required or encouraged to participate in a joint psychological session.

What to expect

The joint session provides a structured space for shared discussion prior to proceeding medically. The focus is on communication, alignment, and clarifying expectations, with attention to the unique relational dynamics present in collaborative family-building arrangements.

Sessions are conducted virtually via secure telehealth unless otherwise arranged.

What we cover

  • Roles, expectations, and boundaries across parties

  • Communication preferences and styles

  • Decision-making around medical scenarios and areas of uncertainty

  • Navigating differing perspectives or emotional responses

  • Setting a foundation for respectful, ongoing collaboration

How to prepare

  • Review agency or clinic guidance related to the joint session

  • Reflect on questions, concerns, or expectations you want addressed together

  • Be prepared for open, respectful dialogue across parties

After the session

When required, a written summary is provided to the referring agency, clinic, or attorney. This session is not an individual psychological evaluation but is often a required step prior to medical progression.

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Additional Information

  • All services are provided via secure telehealth unless otherwise arranged.
  • Psychological evaluations include a clinical interview and proctored psychological testing.
  • Consultations and joint sessions are not individual therapy.
  • Reports and summaries are shared only with appropriate written consent.
  • I regularly collaborate with fertility clinics, agencies, and attorneys.

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